Does this seem like common sense? Because I have never been more embarrassed on a date than when I hear horror stories from the woman about other men she’s met online. And really, most of it comes about as a result of rejection. While the theory behind matching someone is that you are both mutually interested in each other, that does not mean you are halfway to dating. If a girl says “No” when you ask them on a date, take it in stride, and then move on.
Sadly, this isn’t what many men do. You can find an endless supply of screenshots online from women who were having a normal conversation with a guy, and when she says she’s not interested, he suddenly drops about every dirty word you can call a woman in the next message.
This tip also applies when someone flat out doesn’t respond. If you try to start a conversation and get nothing in return, don’t leave twenty more messages or take it personally. Maybe they don’t check it that often, deleted the app from their phone, or just aren’t interested. That’s life. Just be thankful it happened with a stranger from the internet rather than someone you approached at the bar.
The problem is that talking to people digitally really dehumanizes them. We lose track that it’s a person on the other end just like us, and we say things we would never say in person, bad or not, and so we throw out the common unwritten rules of socializing. This is also why it’s better to meet people as soon as both of you are comfortable, so you can put a human to the picture.
