Open dialogue.
Contrary to common dating advice — talking about exes on a first date is actually a great way to learn about the other person and quickly see if there are any red flags that they are not relationship material. While going into too much detail and rehashing the past can ruin the romantic mood, asking a few light questions about past relationships can be very revealing. For example, 'Are you still in touch with your ex?' or 'When did your last relationship end?' What you're looking for is that they speak respectfully about their ex, and don't immediately start venting about what that person did wrong. Bonus points if they have managed to stay friends, or at least that it ended on good terms. This shows real maturity, which is what you want in a partner. You'll also get a sense if there are still unresolved issues that might effect you if you get involved with this person.
Contrary to common dating advice — talking about exes on a first date is actually a great way to learn about the other person and quickly see if there are any red flags that they are not relationship material. While going into too much detail and rehashing the past can ruin the romantic mood, asking a few light questions about past relationships can be very revealing. For example, 'Are you still in touch with your ex?' or 'When did your last relationship end?' What you're looking for is that they speak respectfully about their ex, and don't immediately start venting about what that person did wrong. Bonus points if they have managed to stay friends, or at least that it ended on good terms. This shows real maturity, which is what you want in a partner. You'll also get a sense if there are still unresolved issues that might effect you if you get involved with this person.
